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Praise the Lord. Welcome to this program of R.G. Hardy Ministries because we know faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God. I’m Sharon Notts thanking you for tuning in today because we have a very special message for you if you are married or are planning to be married. If so, this message by my father, Brother Hardy, is one you don’t want to miss. Two shall be one. Even if you have a good marriage, you can benefit from this down-to-earth biblical teaching, two shall be one.
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Hallelujah. I’m talking about marriage, whereby God mystically takes a man and a woman and literally makes them one. And as God was talking to the Pharisees in Matthew 19, chapter 4 through the sixth verse, when they asked him about being able to divorce, he said that in the beginning it was not so, divorce. In the beginning, God said, let there be one man with one woman forever. Forever. Because when he joined them together, they no longer were two but one flesh. And then he gave a command, what therefore God has joined together. Now here is the veiled threat. Let no man put asunder. How many say amen? Let me give you a little background. on the ancient world and family setup. Of course, in this 20th century America, we’ve lost all family values and it’s really no more that way. In fact, a lot of families are single parent families. A lot of people, a lot of families don’t have a father, don’t even know the father. single parent and they don’t know. But in Bible days and in the beginning, a husband or a man would stay in his father’s house. And it’s still so in Europe. I’ve been to Europe a lot of places and They still have that family culture the way it was in the Bible and in Bible times. And they would live together as a family in a family unit, which America has lost. And the man and even the woman, the daughter and the son would stay in the house of their parents and be under their protection and their care until the time came for the son to marry. And when it came time for him to marry, he left his father’s house from under his father’s leadership because the father was the high priest and the leader of the family. He was the protector, provider, and leader of the family. And they were under their care, daughter and son, until it came time for the son to marry. Now, when it came time for the son to marry, he left the protection and the leadership of his father and started his own house. And that’s what God was saying and Jesus was reminding that when a man… gets ready to marry and picks out a suitable wife, then he is to leave his father and mother’s care and leadership and set up his own family and be the leader of his own family. And then… When it came time for the daughter to be given as a wife, the father would send her out of his house from under his care, from under his protection, where he supplied her need and protected her to her husband, her new leader and new protector. But the trouble with it is of a lot of mothers and fathers They have never sent their son out of their house and they have never gave their daughter to her husband. They still try to rule them. Can I get an amen? And that is against the Word of God. The husband is the leader and head of the house, and he is supposed to be the protector, the leader, the feeder, the protector and lover of his wife. The husband is supposed to lead and the wife is supposed to follow his lead. The husband is to love and the wife is to follow his loving lead. How many say amen? You see, that’s why we have in the ceremony where the father gives away the bride. That’s taking over from the ancient Bible order where the father would send the daughter out from his care. And as soon as he sent her out from his care, his rulership and leadership and protectorship and providership of his daughter ceased to be. It was now transferred to her husband. How many say amen? But we got too many parents still trying to run their husbands, I mean their sons and daughters’ marriage. And you are disobeying God’s Word and tearing up that union. And I would advise… Like God advised and Jesus advised, leave your father and mother’s house and set your own up. Young married couple, don’t live with your mother and your father. It doesn’t mean to no more love them. It doesn’t mean to no more honor them and respect them. It means from now on you are no longer under their leadership. The husband is the head of his family. He’s the new leader. How many say amen? And the husband… is to be the leader, lover, protector, provider for his wife, and his wife is to follow his lead, and the husband is to supply her need. How many say amen? Oh, give the Lord a good clap offer. Praise his wonderful name. Praise the name of Jesus. All right, God’s government. What is the new government now in God? The head of every man is Christ. The head of the woman is the man. The head of Christ is God. Now, this doesn’t mean that the husband is a dictator. A Hitler that’s dominating, beating his wife down, How many say amen? Mistreating her. Reducing her to nothing but a slave. That’s not inherent in the word head. But the real meaning of the word is to be the head is to be the leader. You see, logic tells you that I can only have one head in my body. Because if I have two heads, then I’m gonna be the two-headed freak monster. So there can only be one head and God has chosen man to be the head, the leader. And there was a specific reason. Remember I told you the wife is to compliment the husband, supply what he lacks, and the husband compliment the wife to supply what she lacks? Now, God equipped the man to be the leader and not the woman. Now, I want to get to you that not being a leader doesn’t mean you’re a servant and a slave. Amen. I’m going to give you what it means to be a leader. Now, the husband’s role in the marriage is to be the leader. He is to be the guide of the family. He is to be the leader, the feeder, the protector, the lover. That’s the husband’s function. And the wife is to be the The follower. The husband supply the need of his wife and wife follow his lead. If I was a woman and my husband protected me, supplied my need and loved me, he could lead me anywhere he wants. I would be singing… Where he leads me, I will follow. I’ll go with him all the way. Now, God equipped the man to be the leader. And part of the job of the leader was to be the protector and feeder or provider of that family. God did not design the woman to be the protector and provider for the family. I mean, when the enemy comes in to try to harm your family, the woman wasn’t the one to rise up and resist him. That’s the man’s part. Because God has equipped the man for that role. Now, medical scientists found out that man thinks from the left side of his brain. And that’s the side of the brain that is the aggressive side. So God has made the man to be an aggressor. He’s equipped him with his aggressive attitude and makeup that he’ll go out and challenge the world and whip it for his family. God designed him for that and that’s why he’s designed and God has put him as the leader because he has given him that aggressive makeup. But the woman is just the opposite. She thinks from the right side of her brain and that’s the passive side. And the woman is looking for mainly three things. She’s looking for somebody to, number one, love her. Number two, protect her. And number three, give her security. God didn’t design it for the woman to go out there and conquer the world. God designed it for the woman to to make a home for her leader, lover, protector, supplier. How many say amen? That when he came back every day from the wars of life to give her what she needs, that he would have a fit place to come in and relax. Huh? and refresh himself and god made the woman for that part he didn’t make her to go out into the world and hustle for the family he didn’t give her that makeup he gave her that makeup and gave her to adam as a compliment to make him a home to take what he supplied And take that protection and covering of a home that he supplied and the food and stuff that he supplied to make him a nice living place for him and his children and together that they could grow up and rule the world from. That’s what God made the man for and the woman for. I know it’s come down to our society, the devil’s worked it out because he’s out to destroy everything that God set in order. That it’s almost impossible that the wife doesn’t have to work too to make ends meet. But God’s original and perfect situation was the man… with his aggressive nature, to go out and conquer the challenges of the world and bring home the provisions for his family. The wife was to make a suitable and comfortable house where he could come in and escape from the battles and get refreshed for the next day. Because every day out in that world is a battle. How many say amen? That was the original design. That’s why the man was made the leader of the family. Because of him having that aggressive nature. Because he would have to go out into the world and fight the challenges of life to supply his wife’s need. You see, that’s what he is. He is to be the leader, the provider, the protector, and the lover. The wife was to follow his lead and make a comfortable home for him. And if we can, as much as possible in this 20th century, order our family structure that way, we’re gonna cut out a whole lot of problems. How many say amen? Now, the man wasn’t supposed to be a dictator. You know, some of these dictating men find a little scripture here and there, and they twist it out of its setting, I’m supposed to be the head. And right away, I’m Hitler. I’m the absolute authority. I mean, whatever I say in the family, that’s it, and nobody can say anything else, because if they do, I’m going to give them the heel. No, I’m sorry. It doesn’t mean that at all. It doesn’t mean that one little bit. And we’re going to dig into that. How many say amen? Making you the leader don’t make you a dictator. Making you a leader means you’re responsible as the priest for that family to bring them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord to lead them in the right way, to guide that family in the right path and the children… Being the leader is that you’re going to supply their needs. Being the leader is you’re going to protect. And being the leader is you’re going to love them. How many say amen? In this segment, I’m going to introduce you a little bit more to that. I want to go to Ephesians, the fifth chapter. And I tell you, these dictators… These overlording husbands really like to take you this chapter, fifth chapter of Ephesians, to bolster their point that they’re the absolute authority. You know, to a lot of husbands, when they get married, the wife from that moment on is to not open her mouth and to be nothing but a bootlicker and a slave. Have no thoughts. have no opinion, have no rights. Well, brother, that’s not being free. And if that was the case of marriage, I don’t blame you, woman, for not getting married. But that’s not the Bible marriage. That’s not what God meant. He said that we’re to be one. And one of the meanings of one is to be equal. Huh? Paul brought that out in the third chapter, I think, of Galatians 3.28. There’s neither Jew nor Gentile, bond or free, male nor female, but you are all what? One in Christ or equal. How many say amen? The husband and wife are equal. I brought it out in the first segment. They’re not inferior. She’s not inferior. She is not inferior in any sense of the word of inferiority. How many say amen? She is an equal and God gave man and woman the rule of the earth in Genesis 128. How many say amen? He didn’t give Adam the rule of the earth alone. He gave Adam and Eve. And he said, let them rule the earth. Because they are one. They are a pair. They are complementing one another. What one lacks, the other one has. How many say amen? And together they were unity and they’re one. And when each one finds their place, the husband to be the leader, the lover, the provider, protector, the wife to follow his lead and make a home, the husband to supply her need. Brother, you’re going to have, if not a honeymoon all the time, you’re going to have a solid marriage. Give the Lord a clap all for it. And I want to go to Ephesians, the fifth chapter and the 22nd verse. And I’m going to give you these dictators’ main scripture that gives them the right of authority to squash their wife. And it says, wives, submit yourself unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Husband said, I got it. I got it now. How many say amen? He decides to do something. You see, God, if you let him, will give you the mate that supplies your lack, compliments you. How many say amen? And a lot of times, some husbands ain’t got enough sense to blow their nose. But they’re going to tell their wife how they’re going to do it. And their wife says, well, honey, I don’t think it’ll work. He’ll say, shut up. Submit yourself to me. I’m your head. Shut up. You haven’t got nothing to do with it. Submit yourself. And after he makes a whole mess of it, then he wants to come back. How many say amen? How many’s out there? You know what? It’s funny though, that husband, when he found Ephesians 5.22, never ever read the verse up top 21. They never did read it. Look at Ephesians 5.21, it says, submit yourself one to another in the fear of God. And if you go to the Greek text, did you know that the word submit is not in the 22nd verse when it says wives? How many didn’t know that? I know most of you did because you’re not a Greek scholar. How many say amen? Let me read it to 21st and 22nd together the way it’s in the Greek text. It says, submitting yourself one to another in the fear of God. Wives, yourselves unto your own husband as unto the Lord. Taking the word submit from the 21st verse. Husbands, taking the verse submit from the 21st verse. In the 25th verse. Husbands, love your wives. You see, so submitting is loving. How many say amen? You didn’t know that? Now, the word submit is an interesting word in the Greek text. I got a letter a while back, and from time to time I get a letter, and they always take me down because I say the Greek says this or the Greek says that. And this one fellow wrote me back and says, you need to quit saying what the Greek says and get you a good King James Bible. I thank him for his kind help. But I want to let you know that Paul and the Lord and none of us disciples or Bible writers spoke English.
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Amen.
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I want to let you know that the Lord didn’t inspire the English Bible. Boy, that’s going to roll around some people’s heads.
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Amen. I hope you’re blessed by this informative and inspirational message by my father, Brother Hardy. Two shall be one. We feel strongly that every Christian marriage should examine itself in the light of God’s word to be sure that they are applying godly principles for a healthy and holy marriage. This teaching defines and expounds the very important meanings of the terms headship and submission, and these are areas that are often misused and abused in marriage. Also addressed are the questions, what is the biblical role of the husband in marriage? What is the biblical role of the wife? And what about the role of sex in marriage? These issues are soundly addressed in this vital, practical, and enlightening teaching, Two Shall Be One. Now you may want to add this to your spiritual library or share it with someone who is getting married or someone having marital problems. It is available on a double CD set for a love gift of $15 or more to the radio ministry. Request offer 215. That’s offer 215. Our mailing address is Brother Hardy, P.O. Box 1744, Baltimore, Maryland, 21203. or if you prefer, order online at rghardy.org. That’s rghardy.org. Again, this is a two-CD set for a love gift of $15 or more. Request offer 215. Our mailing address is P.O. Box 1744, Baltimore, Maryland, 21203. Until next time, this is Sister Sharon saying, Maranatha.
