Join us in this enlightening episode of Family Talk as we delve into the profound wisdom of Coach John Wooden, a man whose legacy transcends the basketball court. Through a heartfelt conversation, Dr. James Dobson explores how Wooden’s life was shaped by his deep-seated values of character, faith, and perseverance. Wooden’s Pyramid of Success not only guided him to 10 national championships but left an indelible mark on countless individuals beyond the realm of sports.
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SPEAKER 01 :
Well, welcome to Family Talk. I’m Roger Marsh. As March Madness continues to captivate the nation, we’re bringing you part two of a truly special conversation. On the last edition of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk, we heard Coach John Wooden share about his upbringing on an Indiana farm, his father’s profound influence, and his beautiful 53-year marriage to his beloved Nellie. Coach Wooden won 10 national championships at UCLA. It’s a record that stands still today. But as you’ll hear on today’s broadcast, his greatest legacy wasn’t about wins and losses. It was about character, faith, and wisdom that transcends the game. Coach John Wooden passed away in 2010 at the age of 99. Our own Dr. James Dobson had the privilege of sitting down with him shortly before he did go home to be with the Lord. And before we continue that conversation, Dr. Dobson has a few thoughts to share about his dear friend.
SPEAKER 03 :
Well, the man we’re going to hear from again today is an individual who finished well to his last breath. We’re going to hear the words of Coach John Wooden from UCLA, who went on to be with the Lord at the age of 99, and he left a legacy that is as rich and meaningful as any that we could ever aspire to. I got acquainted with him near the end of his life. I had an opportunity to interview him in And what a delightful man he was. Everybody loved John Wooden who knew him. It’s interesting. We developed quite a friendship and he sent me a basketball that he had signed and he forgot it. And he sent me a second one and then he forgot that and sent me a third. So I’ve got three basketballs signed by John Wooden and I’m proud of every single one of them. At the beginning of the recorded conversation that we’re going to hear today, which is part two of our discussion together, he was one of the winningest coaches in basketball history there at UCLA, and he’s been honored in so many ways. In 2003, he received the Presidential Medal of Freedom, which is the nation’s highest civilian honor. President George W. Bush remarked that, quote, Coach Wooden remains a part of our lives as a teacher of the game and as an example of what a good man should be. And I echo those words today. And even though he’s now gone, those words are still with us, and we’re going to hear some of them today.
SPEAKER 01 :
Now let’s rejoin Dr. James Dobson for more of his conversation with Coach John Wooden on today’s edition of Family Talk.
SPEAKER 03 :
So you began life with almost nothing, no money. You were in debt when you married. Shortly after that, World War II came along. and you felt that you ought to join the Navy. What’s the story there?
SPEAKER 04 :
Well, I made a mistake in a way. I’m not talking about her. I enlisted without her knowing, and that’s probably the worst disagreement we ever had. She didn’t think I should because I had the two children and was a teacher, and I might not have been drafted, but I just felt it was the thing to do, and I enlisted, and we got over that.
SPEAKER 03 :
You were on what ship? Were you on any of the ships we would recognize?
SPEAKER 04 :
No, I was blessed in many ways. I had orders to go to the USS Franklin, and on my way, I got terribly, terribly sick, and my appendix had burst, and I had an emergency. So they canceled my orders, and the fellow that replaced me on the Franklin was hit by a kamikaze and killed. then I was sent for a training carrier the USS Sable for training on Lake Michigan for training where pilots made their first landing one of the basketball players who played for me at South Bend made his first landing on a carrier when I was serving as the captain at that particular time and then near the end of the war I got orders to go to the Belleau Wood which was in the but Japan had surrendered it was the South Pacific, and I wanted to get out. I didn’t want to go to Japan. The war was over. I didn’t want to go to Tokyo. And the captain of the Sable, the USS Sable, he managed to get connections to Washington, and I got out the next day. I went to the Glenview Naval Base out of Chicago and got out.
SPEAKER 03 :
I understand you had another near-death experience, or at least one that could have taken your life.
SPEAKER 04 :
Well, I suppose you think of the time when I was headed to our chemical college at Boots Creek, North Carolina. That’s correct. Where I went there for a basketball camp for several years in a row. That’s where Pete Beravitz was coming when he was a youngster.
SPEAKER 01 :
Yeah.
SPEAKER 04 :
Somebody came up at UCLA that I couldn’t go on Saturday. I normally went on Saturday, be there on Sunday, because I usually spoke at the chapel for all the youngsters who were there. And I couldn’t go. And so I had my ticket changed to the next day. And the plane that I had the ticket for on Saturday crashed. Everybody was gone. So I don’t know if that’s close or not.
SPEAKER 03 :
The Lord was obviously looking out for you. He had something he wanted you to do, Coach. Apparently so. And you have felt that divine ordination on your life, haven’t you?
SPEAKER 04 :
I think so. I think so. I think there’s more than just what we see. There’s something deeper than that. And I don’t know what it is, but I hope it’s pleasing to me.
SPEAKER 03 :
You mentioned Pete Maravich. The day that he died, I don’t know if you know that he died in my arms. I knew that. The day that he died, I set up that little pickup game, just a bunch of duffers. And then here comes this superstar of all times, Pete Maravich. And I knew that we had to get somebody to guard him because I sure wasn’t going to do it. And Ralph Drollinger came to play with us that day. So he and I wound up giving CPR to Pete. Ralph played with you. Yes, he did. He was a center for you during one of those games.
SPEAKER 04 :
The last championship game in 1975. He played wonderful for us in that game.
SPEAKER 03 :
Well, you had that wonderful basketball career that ended in 1975. I would think that it would have been pretty difficult to walk away from something that intense and that rewarding and that successful. How hard was it to retire and move on?
SPEAKER 04 :
It wasn’t difficult at all. Really? For some reason, it was the time. I decided on the spur of the moment. I thought if anybody had asked me even 10 minutes before, I would have said, oh, I’ll teach for two more years, maybe three, but certainly not over three. And then suddenly, just like that, I decided it’s time. And I’ve never regretted it. I’ve missed practices. I love to teach. I love to plan my daily practices. I love to conduct them. But I don’t miss the games. I don’t miss the tournaments. I don’t miss the follow-alls. And I don’t miss trying to explain to the media what happened and so on. The only thing I miss at all was the practices. That’s where you get to learn your players, learn about them, where you establish rapport and relationships that last forever.
SPEAKER 03 :
You have for many years been speaking on an idea that you have wanted to convey to young people throughout a good part of your professional career. Describe it for us.
SPEAKER 04 :
Well, in my early years of teaching, I became a little bit disappointed at what I thought parents of youngsters in my English classes expected from their youngsters. And if they didn’t get an A or B, I found many parents thought that either the youngster had failed or the teacher had failed. And I didn’t like that way of judging at all. I didn’t think that was fair because the good Lord and his infinite wisdom didn’t create us all equal as parents. As an intelligence concern, any more than we can force size or appearance, we’re not convincing environments, et cetera. And I wanted to come up with something else. I wanted to coin my own definition, which would be a little different from Mr. Webster’s. I thought this could help me become a better teacher and give the youngsters under my supervision something to which to aspire, other than just higher marks in the classroom or more points in some athletic endeavor. Yeah, and… I thought about this and several things came to mind. One was my father saying never try to be better than somebody else and never cease trying to be the best you can be. And in a class, a discussion of success that I recall some years before, and I ran across a simple verse that said that God’s footstool to confess a poor soul knelt and bowed his head. I failed, he cried. The master said, thou didst thy best. That is success. I like that. I think that is when you individually know you did your best. So from that, I coined my own definition of success, which is peace of mind attained only through self-satisfaction and knowing you made the effort to do the best of what you’re capable of. Nobody else knows that but you because you can fool everybody else. But that wasn’t serving the purpose for which I had hoped. And so I tried to wonder what I could do. And I came to the conclusion after analyzing it a bit that if I could come up with something you could see. And here again, like so many things popped out from the hidden recesses of the mind, something I had seen years before called a ladder of achievement. Somebody had taken the ladder, five rungs in the ladder, and they had named each rung of the ladder some particular trait or characteristic that this individual felt was necessary to get to the top of the ladder, where we’d all like to get. We might differ in what we consider the top of the ladder to be, but we’d like to get there. And there’s nothing wrong with ambition as long as it’s kept under control. And that gave me an idea of a pyramid. And I worked on that for the next 14 years.
SPEAKER 03 :
Pyramid of success.
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I placed my definition of success at the apex and then started working from the bottom. And the first two blocks I ever chose were the cornerstones, industriousness and enthusiasm.
SPEAKER 03 :
They are essential. Now you have a training program for young people that’s being used all across the country and has been for a number of years that incorporates that. And the name of the training program is?
SPEAKER 04 :
I’m doing it with Mr. Guerin, and it is the genre, of course, I guess that’s what it’s called. And it consists of materials, videos? Yes, and all from the Pyramid there. All from the Pyramid. And different, different things from it. Yeah. I spoke to the players one time at the beginning of the year on the Pyramid. I took some time and explained each block and talked to them one time. And then I would say, whenever you want to come in, talk to me about it, fine. And some did and some didn’t. I’ll give you an example. Lewis Southsender, Kareem Abdul-Jabbar, on the interview, the interviewer asked him, what do you think about Coach Wooden’s pyramid? And he said, when I came to school, I thought it was the corniest thing I’d ever seen. He said, before I got out of school, I saw it was kind of meaningful. But I never realized how much until a number of years after I was out of school. And that’s come from a lot of the players. And that sort of pleases me. It’s what happens to them afterwards. I like Amos Alonzo Stagg. Most of you probably never heard of Amos Alonzo Stagg. He was a great football coach when the University of Chicago had outstanding football teams. And after one fine year, a reporter said, well, Coach Stagg, is this your finest year? And he said, I won’t know for 25 or 30 years. In other words, more concerned of what’s going to happen to all those under supervision after they’re gone than right at the moment. I’ve always liked that statement.
SPEAKER 03 :
You have had a lifelong love for the Bible. That came from your father, I believe.
SPEAKER 04 :
Yes, I think so.
SPEAKER 03 :
Do you still read it and study it? Yes, I do. Is it still meaningful to you? Does it still speak to you?
SPEAKER 04 :
Indeed.
SPEAKER 03 :
You carry a cross with you.
SPEAKER 04 :
I do.
SPEAKER 02 :
Do you have it with you today? I do. Could I see it?
SPEAKER 04 :
Yes. It was given to me by my minister in South Bend, Indiana, when I joined the service in the I’ve got some other little things here too. Yeah. Another cross. Is that money or is that something else? Just a little came from Rome. This is the one that my husband gave me. It has alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end. And it has the heart and the monad.
SPEAKER 02 :
Why do you carry it? I think I know, but tell us. Give me a piece.
SPEAKER 04 :
I had that in my hand all the basketball games, and I think they didn’t know it, but I think officials should have been happy that I had that in my hand.
SPEAKER 03 :
And you have carried it virtually every day.
SPEAKER 04 :
Yes, I’ve had it all these years.
SPEAKER 03 :
It’s worn down. How long have you been carrying it?
SPEAKER 04 :
Well, I had it since 1942 is when I… It was given to me, and the heart and the monad and the off and the me get almost faded out. You can still see them, but they’re still there. I’ve never seen another one like it, and I like that.
SPEAKER 02 :
I’ve got another one in a pocket I carry, but it’s not like that, and it’s not that meaningful. You have indicated that you’re still trying to grow, still trying to learn.
SPEAKER 04 :
Yes, I think we should be. Every day when you’re through learning, you’re through. I think that’s true. I think when I was teaching, I think, I hope in 1975 I was a little better than I was in 74. I know I was a lot better than I was in 1934. But I hope each year I was a little better than I was the year before. There’s always different ways of learning, maybe not in certain techniques, but there are other things. Most important probably is learning to work and listen to other people.
SPEAKER 03 :
When you would greet a new team with a lot of freshmen and you had to start from scratch, where did you begin? What did you say to them on the first day? Well, the first day I practiced or the first day I met with him.
SPEAKER 04 :
Yeah, either one. Well, I want to get across to him that the first thing is that defense usually wins championships. And it’s been an absolute disgrace. If any of you are a good offensive player and you’re not a good defensive player, that’s disgraceful. Now, a good defensive player might not be a good offensive player. And I understand that. But offensively, you better be a good defenseman. I want you to remember that. Now, offensively, I want you to know that I want most of our baskets to come at the end of a pass, not the end of a dribble. And here we permit no behind-the-back passing, no behind-the-back dribbling, no fancy stuff. If you want that, we’ll try to get you a job at the Globetrotters, or you can go someplace else. No showboating. No showboating. I wanted to understand that. But I wanted to understand that two-thirds of our practice throughout the entire year will be individual fundamental drills, and a third will be on trying to bring the individuals together in the team concept, and we must always think of the team first.
SPEAKER 03 :
If you had a player whom you suspected was trying to put numbers up for himself, even though he was helping the team, what would you do?
SPEAKER 04 :
Oh, I had the greatest ally in the world, the bench.
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SPEAKER 01 :
Well, I’m Roger Marsh once again, just ducking in for a moment to remind you that you’re listening to a special edition of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk. We’re revisiting Dr. Dobson’s classic conversation with legendary UCLA basketball coach John Wooden. Now, as we reach this midpoint, please know how much we appreciate your prayers and faithful financial support of the James Dobson Family Institute. We can’t do this ministry without you, and we are so grateful for the ways that you stand with us to continue to bring the good news of the gospel to families all across the country. You can learn more about how you can stand with us on a more regular basis when you go to jdfi.net. That’s jdfi.net. And now let’s continue with the conclusion of today’s conversation featuring Dr. James Dobson and Coach John Wooden here on Family Talk.
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Well, I’ve often said that the two most important words in the language are love and balance. And two of my bookcases at home, one is love and the other one’s balance, and the third one is drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible. There are three of the bookcases that I have. And I do believe that love, love, I mean true love, lasting, not passion, love, love. Passion is temporary. Love is enduring. And that is the most important way, and it can be shown in many ways. What is it in my book, Inch and Miles for Children? Charlie the Chimp is on friendship and it ends something like, to be a friend is plain to see that you yourself a friend must be. Love is indicated in that. Let’s see, there’s another one there. A bell isn’t a bell until you ring it. A song isn’t a song until you sing it. And the love that is in us wasn’t put there to stay. Love isn’t love till you give it away. True love. And then the next one is balance. You have to keep things in proper perspective. Don’t let things get out of perspective. And that is done too much. Keep things in proper perspective regarding your profession. I use, at times, I say family, faith, and friends. And I say that’s wrong. But I think he’ll understand. It should be faith, family, and friends. The three important things. The three important things. If you have those, I’d like to know what else you need. Freedom. Pretty good. Yeah. But with faith, family, and friends, with faith, I kind of think you have freedom.
SPEAKER 03 :
When your life is over, how do you want to be remembered? What we’ve talked about today are the things that we remember about you and admire you for. What do you want to be remembered for? As the coach that won 10 national championships?
SPEAKER 04 :
I’d like to be remembered as just someone who was considerate of other people. That’d be enough. That’s it?
SPEAKER 02 :
Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER 04 :
While we’re off here, I don’t know if they’ve heard about this. A fellow was going to the cemetery reading all the inscriptions. You know, that’s where you find the perfect people. Just read the inscriptions. You’ll find they’re all perfect. One fellow came to one and said, As you are now, so once was I. As I am now, you are sure to be. So may I say as here I lie, prepare yourself to follow me. And somebody had scratched under that. To follow you, I’m not content until I know which way you went.
SPEAKER 03 :
You know where I read that? Where? It was a little earlier than what you just read and talked about. Shirley and I last summer were in Rome. And there is the Capuchin Monks House of Bones. And this is a monastery which is filled with the skeletons of the monks. And when you come out, I mean, it’s all over the ceiling and walls and everywhere. The clock is made out of finger bones. The skulls are on the roofs. It’s really kind of a spooky place as you’re coming out of it. there’s that little note that says, where you are, we once were, and where we are, you will be. And it was that same, and that was from the 1500s. So we scooped you a little bit there.
SPEAKER 04 :
Well, did they have the one in there that said, when you get to heaven, you will likely view many persons whose presence there will be a shock to you. But don’t look surprised. Don’t you even stare. Doubtless, there’ll be many folks surprised to see you there. Yeah.
SPEAKER 03 :
You look forward to seeing the Lord someday? Of course I do. We’re going to be together through eternity. That’s kind of exciting. Would you take a little time when we get there to teach me to shoot? I have the perfect poem here on which to end our conversation. This was written by you, Coach Whitten. And the title of it is Do Not Look Back. I’m going to read it. Years have left their imprint on my hands and on my face. Erect no longer is my walk and slower is my pace. But there is no fear within my heart because I’m growing old. I only wish I had more time to further serve my Lord. When I’ve gone to Him in prayer, He has brought me inner peace, and soon my cares and worries and all other troubles cease. He has blessed me in so many ways. He has never let me down. Why should I fear the future when I soon may touch his crown? Though I know down here my time is short, there is endless time up there, and he will forgive and keep me forever in his loving care. May I not waste an hour that’s left to glorify his name of the one who died that we may live and for our sins took all the blame. Isn’t that beautiful?
SPEAKER 01 :
Well, what a meaningful poem penned by the late John Wooden. His words are much more meaningful now that he’s gone to be with the Lord, of course. He truly was a phenomenal leader, coaching some of the greatest players in basketball history. But as we’ve heard over these past couple of programs here on Family Talk, Coach John Wooden was also a man of tremendous character, and noble character is at the center of every good leader. Now, before we wrap up this program, I want you to hear a small clip that demonstrates his profound integrity. Here is Coach John Wooden addressing how he handled various racial issues on a team he coached.
SPEAKER 04 :
You may have heard something. When I was teaching at Indiana State University, I was there two years, and my first year we were invited into the National NAI Tournament. I had one black player on my team. He didn’t get to play very much. He was perhaps… I had a 12-man squad. He probably played the least of any of the 12 players. But he was a member of the squad, and I refused to go because they wouldn’t let him go. Well, the next year, we had a better year. I think we finished 29-4, something like that. And we were invited again. I refused. And then his parents and I think it was the NAACP… And they talked to the people of the university, the president and so on. And they thought it would be nice if he could go. They agreed to let him play. But he couldn’t stay in the hotel. We can have meals in the hotel as long as we’ve got a private dining room. And I said no. But eventually I was persuaded. And we stayed with the minister and his wife while we were there. No problems in any way. He didn’t get to play very much. But that was a breakthrough. Yeah. What year would that have been? That would be 1948. How disgraceful, when you think about it. A few years later, a black team happened to win. I never had any problem with racial relationships. I’m very proud of after one championship game, one of my black players, a reporter in my presence said, tell me about your racial problems. He straightened up. You don’t know our coach, do you? He doesn’t see racial pregnancies. He sees ballplayers. And he turned, walked away from the reporter, and that pleased me. That pleased me. That pleased me about as much as anything could please me. You were known then for being colorblind, and you were. Well, I’d like to think I was without prejudice, but I can’t say that. I’m not sure anyone is completely without prejudice, but I’d like to feel I was.
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, you had some of the greatest black players in the history of the game. I did. I remember Sidney Wicks and that team won one year. See, I was following you. You didn’t know that, but I was on the other side of town watching you. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER 01 :
Coach Wooden lived to be 99 years old. His legacy proves that the principles he taught weren’t just theories, they actually did work. You’ve been listening to a special edition of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk as we heard the conclusion of Dr. Dobson’s conversation with Coach John Wooden. If you missed any portion of this two-part broadcast, remember you can listen again at jdfi.net. When you partner with us financially, you’re helping to preserve and promote biblical principles that support marriage, family, and child development. To make a secure donation, visit JDFI.net. Well, I’m Roger Marsh, and from all of us here at the Dr. James Dobson Family Institute and Family Talk, thank you so much for listening today. Be sure to join us again next time right here for another edition of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk, the voice you trust for the family you love. This has been a presentation of the Dr. James Dobson Family Institute.
