Every Christian will encounter moments when God seems silent and unanswered questions threaten to shake their faith. On today’s edition of Family Talk, Dr. James Dobson concludes his three-part series about his book When God Doesn’t Make Sense. He shares powerful reflections on trusting God through suffering, the brevity of life, and the certain hope of eternity that anchors believers through their darkest days. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29?v=20251111
Hello, everyone. You’re listening to Family Talk, a radio broadcasting ministry of the James Dobson Family Institute. I’m Dr. James Dobson, and thank you for joining us for this program.
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Well, welcome to Family Talk, the broadcast division of the Dr. James Dobson Family Institute. I’m Roger Marsh. Have you ever cried out to God in the middle of a trial and heard nothing but silence? I’m sure you’ll agree it has to be one of the most disorienting experiences a believer will ever face. And that gap between what we know to be true about God and what we feel in that moment seems like it’s insurmountable. Well, on today’s edition of Family Talk, we are bringing you the conclusion of a powerful three-part series featuring Dr. James Dobson discussing the subject of his best-selling book, When God Doesn’t Make Sense. On today’s Family Talk broadcast, he’ll wrap up the discussion with a reflection on faith under fire and then share a second message on how God views death and eternity different than we do. That’s coming up right now on today’s edition of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk.
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We’ve been talking for two days now about, frankly, one of my favorite books. It’s entitled When God Doesn’t Make Sense. I do hope that you heard those discussions because virtually every Christian will encounter those times when unanswered whys will flood into our Christian experience and give us a sense of urgency that may even threaten or undermine our relationship with Christ. When this happens, some people think, how could God allow this to happen to me? Does he really love me? Does he care that I’m hurting and that I’m suffering? And that’s when many of us hit what Dr. R.T. Kendall calls the betrayal barrier, those moments when you feel abandoned by God. That’s a common experience in the Christian life, and we want to prevent that because it is not valid. If that scenario has occurred to you, I do hope that you’ll get and read a copy of When God Doesn’t Make Sense. It’s helped millions of people who’ve hit the wall theologically, and many have abandoned their faith. I call that experience losing God, and we must not allow Satan to do that to us. He makes sense even when he doesn’t make sense. The scriptures tell us we see through a dark glass now, but then face to face, and we will know even as we’re now knowing. Someday, I think those wise will have answers. For now, you have to trust him and depend on him. And you can do that. You can trust him even when you can’t track him. So that’s how far we’ve gotten with our discussion in the last two days. For the balance of day three in this discussion, I began with an illustration right out of our own backyard.
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When we lived in Southern California, we had a vine that grew on a fence at the back of our property. And this is the most ambitious vine in the history of the world. In fact, it wanted to conquer the entire state. And it was just growing in all directions. And there was a 150-year-old oak tree that just, it was just beautiful. It shaded our backyard. And the vine wanted to conquer the oak tree. And if you would allow the vine to climb up the oak tree, it would kill it. And so every three or four months, I would look out the window, and the vine had again attacked the oak tree. And it was heading up there and was winding around and on its way up the limbs. And so I would go out there, and I would not pull the vine off the tree. That would rip the bark, and it would damage the tree. I would just take some shears, and I’d walk up there, and I would clip the bottom of the vine and walk away. Now the vine looks exactly the same, there’s no change, and yet it had been mortally wounded. And you come back in about three days and those shiny green leaves were kind of dull. Come back a couple of days later and they were brown around the edge. Come back a week later and there’s these big black malignant spots all over the leaves. Another week or two, they were totally brown and they’d fall off, leaving only a stick protruding up the tree and then finally that would fall away. A person who goes through these kind of crises and hits the betrayal barrier and loses God is like that vine. Now, what does it mean to lose God? That doesn’t mean he’s gone. That doesn’t mean you’re not a Christian. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care. To lose God means your faith is so wounded and so damaged that you can’t reach out and take hold of him. and you may not even be aware that he’s there. And many people go through this, they lose God. What happens to them when they do? What happens when you lose God? John 15, five and six addresses this beautifully. Jesus is speaking and says, I am the vine and you’re the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit. Apart from me, you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, and the vine is clipped, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers, and such branches are picked up and thrown into the fire and burned. You must not allow Satan to do that to your faith in the hard times. Hold on, hang on, that’s what he wants of us. Let me read you a scripture to this effect. This is from Romans 4, 17 to 22. This is about Abraham. Abraham’s the father of our faith. He’s the one that we hold up as the example of faith under fire. Listen to what is written about him. Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed. Do you get that? You look at the facts and the facts say it can’t happen. There’s not even a hope that Isaac would somehow survive this sacrifice. And yet it says, against all hope, Abraham in hope believed. That seems like a contradiction, doesn’t it? There’s no hope, but Abraham says there’s hope. And so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, so shall your offspring be. Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead since he was about 100 years old and that Sarah’s womb was also dead. You understand what he’s saying there? He’s saying he looked at the facts and the facts said no way. He said he faced the fact that his body was too old to reproduce and that Sarah had gone through menopause or whatever he called it in those days and that she was not going to be having any babies. She’s 90 years old and that must have been a little bit funny to him when he even thought about her singing Rock-A-Bye Baby. I mean, it wasn’t going to happen. So he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead, yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being fully persuaded that God had power to do what he had promised. There it is, folks. When God doesn’t make sense and you can’t figure it out, you look at the facts and they say, no way. When everything contradicts what you’ve been told and what you believe, What’s God want of you? He wants you to hold on to your faith. He wants you to believe anyway. He wants you to not be shaken off the limb. He wants you to keep you linked into the vine. Don’t let go even when it makes no sense. And that’s all through scripture. And God is asking something of us that I think we need to convey to younger Christians who are not yet there. Go ahead.
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I went through a time in my life where I felt God betrayed me. Actually, it happened when I was young, but I just didn’t deal with it. It was the same year I gave my heart to Jesus. And later on, as I was an adult, I had to start dealing with all this stuff that was inside, and I couldn’t understand why God didn’t protect me.
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Now, this is an example of what I’m talking about, that sense of betrayal, that sense of having been abandoned by God at a very critical moment. And if we’re honest, again, that is very, very widespread in the human family. And if you just take it on through our lives, you’ll bump into that too. You may never understand why. I don’t know why the Lord took my father when he had such a great influence on me. That loss will never be compensated for. I didn’t understand when I was playing basketball and had that heart attack, you know, and God has opened all these doors. Why is he giving me all that opportunity? And then I find myself in a cardiac care unit with tubes hanging all over me. You know, there’s just, there’s some situations you can’t explain. I see it now. I think the Lord used that dramatically in my life. It changed me. changed me emotionally and spiritually, made me more sensitive to Him, more dependent upon Him, made me eat better. I’ve eaten some of the finest birdseed man can buy since I came here.
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Well, with that reference to birdseed, I ended my presentations on the subject when God doesn’t make sense. I do, as I said at the top of the program, hope that you had an opportunity to hear the entire series because at some point in time, it will be relevant to you. I think I can say that without fear of contradiction. Now, to use the balance of our time here on our program, I want you to hear something recorded at a different time, but it is still on point. It’s on target with what we’ve been talking about, and I think you will find it relevant.
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My first encounter with death occurred when I was barely three years of age. I’d become friends with a two-year-old whose parents were members of the church my father pastored. His name was Danny and he came to visit me one day. We dressed up like cowboys and we walked around shooting at things with toy guns. I remember trying to teach the little fellow how the game was played. A few days later Danny contracted an infection of some type and he died very quickly. I didn’t understand what had happened to him, although I knew my parents were very upset. They took me with them to the funeral home, but they left me in the car for what seemed like an hour or more. Finally my father came to get me. I was taken inside and shown the casket of my little friend. Dad then held me up so I could see Danny’s body. I remember believing that he was asleep and that I could have awakened him if they would have let me open his eyes. After we got back in the car, my parents tried to explain what had happened to Danny. That was my first awareness that bad things can happen to good people. A short time later, the same thing happened to my grandmother, and I began to get the picture. That gradual awareness of death is rather typical for preschool kids. Their dogs and cats die, and then they lose a grandparent or another member of the family. Some children, especially those in the inner city, learn about dying from the violence that they witness in the streets. Regardless of how it comes to be understood, death has a profound impact on our outlook and our behavior from that point forward. For most of us, it represents the ultimate tragedy, the end to everything familiar and predictable. It bears the aura of the unknown, as depicted in horror movies and scenes from beyond the grave. It’s usually associated with disease and accidents and violence, all having very threatening overtones for us. Given this lifelong orientation, a diagnosis of a terminal illness or the loss of a loved one bears awesome implications for us psychologically and spiritually. I’m sure it will always be that way, and these words will not change it. But we do need to understand that God views death very differently than we do. It’s no disaster to him. Isaiah 57.1 states, “…the righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart.” In other words, no one understands. “…the devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.” In other words, the righteous are far better off in the next world than in this one. Psalm 116.15 puts it more succinctly, Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints. Now, what do these scriptures mean for the living? Well, they hinted a place on the far side of the river that is more wonderful than we can imagine. That is, in fact, precisely what we read in 1 Corinthians 2.9. It says, No eye hath seen, no ear hath heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him. How reassuring it is to know that our loved ones have gone on to that better world and that we as believers will soon join them. Does this sound like pie in the sky, by and by, or perhaps the opiate of the people, as Karl Marx sarcastically described it? Sure it does, but the Bible teaches it and I believe it. And because I do, death has taken on an entirely new dimension for me. In a recent telephone conversation with Rev. Billy Graham, whom I admire tremendously for his consistent walk with the Lord, I mentioned his ongoing battle with Parkinson’s disease. Having watched that illness ravage the mind and body of my mother, I asked him, Dr. Graham, does your faith hold you steady at this stage of your life? Do you still believe what you did when you were young? The godly evangelist immediately replied with great emotion, Oh, Jim, I can hardly wait to see my Lord. See, that is the biblical response to death. I heard a man who understood this concept beautifully. His last words before dying were, This should be interesting. Paul put it like this, he said, O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? 1 Corinthians 15, 55. Then toward the end of life, he said, for me to live is Christ and to die is gain. Philippians 1, 21. If you have recently lost a child or a loved one, or are facing death yourself, I do want to minimize your pain. But I hope you will see that the discomfort is intensified by the misunderstanding of time. Our journey here has the illusion of permanence about it. Billions who went before us thought the same thing. Now they’re gone, every one of them. In truth, we’re just passing through. If we fully comprehended this brevity of life, the things that frustrate us, including most of those occasions when God doesn’t make sense, wouldn’t matter so much. Now this is the vitally important biblical concept I want you to understand. David wrote, “…as for man, his days are like grass. He flourishes like a flower of the field. But the wind passes over it, and it is gone, and the place remembers it no more. He also said, Show me, O Lord, my life’s end and the number of my days. Let me know how fleeting is my life.” Moses expressed the same idea in Psalms 90.12. He said, Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. That wisdom of which Moses spoke puts everything into proper perspective. It is difficult to get excited over raw materialism, for example, when one remembers that everything in this life is temporary. That thought occurred to me one day when I was taking a commercial airline flight. We had taxied out to the end of the runway and we waited for clearance to take off. I looked out of the window and I saw the remains of two huge 747 airplanes sitting on the field. All the paint had been stripped off the fuselage, and rust was spreading down from the top. The insides had been gutted, and the windows were sealed. Then I saw a tiny bit of blue paint on the tail of one plane, and I realized that these had been proud ships in the fleet of Pan American Airways. The empty hulks looked pitiful sitting out there alone, shorn of their beauty. For some reason, they reminded me of the poem entitled Little Boy Blue, written by Eugene Field. The first stanza reads, The little toy dog is covered with dust, but sturdy and staunch he stands. And the little toy soldier is red with rust, and his musket molds in his hands. Time was when the little toy dog was new, and the soldier was passing fair. And that was the time our little boy blue kissed them and put them there. I might have composed my own poem as I sat looking out the window. Time was when these two airplanes were new and they flew to great heights in the sky. But now they are rusty, forgotten, and old. And they seem to be questioning why. I imagined the day these magnificent craft were rolled out of the bowling plant with shiny new enamel and the proud Pan Am insignia on the tails. They were christened with champagne amidst cheers and laughter. Then they were taken on their maiden voyages. Little boys and little girls craned their necks skyward to watch these beautiful birds coming in for a landing. What excitement they must have generated for passengers and crew. Now the company that owned them has gone bankrupt and the planes are grounded forever. How could it have happened in fewer than 20 years? Who would have thought that these multimillion-dollar aircraft would come to such a quick and ignoble end? As we taxied past the shells, I thought about the impermanence of everything that now looks so stable. Nothing lasts very long, and we’re the ones who are passing through on our way to another life of far greater significance. To those who are hurting and discouraged at this time, I think it would be comforting to look forward to the time when the present trials will be a distant memory. A day of celebration is coming like nothing that has ever occurred in the history of mankind. The guest of honor on that morning will be one wearing a seamless robe, with eyes like flames of fire and feet like fine brass. As we bow humbly before him, a great voice will thunder from the heavens, saying, Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain. for the old order of things has passed away. And again the mighty voice will echo through the corridors of time. Never again will they hunger, never again will they thirst. The sun will not beat upon them, nor any scorching heat, for the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd, and he will lead them to springs of living water, and God will wipe away every tear from their eyes. Revelation 7, 16 and 17. this is the hope of the ages that burns within my breast it is the ultimate answer to those who suffer and struggle to-day it is the only solace for those who have said good-bye to a loved one though the pain is indescribable now and i have felt it in my time We must never forget that our separation is temporary. We will be reunited forever on that glad resurrection morning. And as the Scripture promises, our tears will be banished forever. My father and mother will also be in the crowd, standing expectantly beside my little grandmother, who prayed for me before I was born. They will be straining to catch a glimpse of our arrival, just like they did so many Christmas seasons when we flew into the Kansas City airport. Dad will have so much to tell me that he’ll be just bursting with excitement. He’ll want to take me to some distant planet he’s discovered. Your loved ones who died in Christ will also be in that great throng, singing and shouting the praises of the Redeemer. What a celebration it will be! This is the reward for the faithful, for those who break through the betrayal barrier and persevere to the end. This is the crown of righteousness prepared for those who have fought a good fight and finished the course and kept the faith. Throughout our remaining days in this life, therefore, let me urge you not to be discouraged by temporal cares. Accept the circumstances as they’re presented to you. Expect periods of hardship to occur and don’t be dismayed when they come. Lean into the pain when your time to suffer comes around, knowing that God will use the difficulty for His purposes and indeed for our own good. The Lord is very near and he’s promised that your temptation will not be greater than you can bear. I’ll leave you with these wonderful words from Psalm 34, 70 to 19. The righteous cry out. and the Lord hears them. He delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and he saves those who are crushed in spirit. A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all.
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You know, when God doesn’t make sense, the answer isn’t more answers, it’s more trust. You’re listening to Dr. James Dobson’s family talk, and we’ve been listening to Dr. Dobson talk about what to do when God doesn’t appear to make sense to us. If you missed any part of this three-part series, or if you want to pass it along to someone walking through a difficult season, Go to jdfi.net. And if you want to dig even deeper into this topic, the Dr. James Dobson Family Institute has put together a 10-day email series for you that’s absolutely free. It’s called When God Doesn’t Make Sense, drawn directly from Dr. Dobson’s bestselling book. These brief faith-building messages are designed to meet you right where you are, whether you’re in the middle of a storm or helping someone else find their footing. To sign up for this free 10-day email series, just go to jdfi.net and search for that title, When God Doesn’t Make Sense. And of course, if you are interested in securing a copy of the book, you can ask about ordering information while you’re online with us as well. You know, the work of the Dr. James Dobson Family Institute continues on into our 16th year now, and it’s made possible entirely by listeners like you who pray for us and support our mission financially. If these broadcasts have strengthened your faith or carried you through a difficult time, Amen. Amen. Amen. Our ministry mailing address is Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk, or just use those initials, JDFI for short. P.O. Box 39000, Colorado Springs, Colorado. The zip code 80949. Well, I’m Roger Marsh. Thanks so much for listening today. Be sure to join us again next time right here for another edition of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk. The voice you trust for the family you love. This has been a presentation of the Dr. James Dobson Family Institute.
