This episode journeys through the profound message of Psalm 128, showcasing its timeless truth about fatherhood. You’ll hear personal stories that illustrate the powerful influence of committed and reverent fathers in building strong families. Both informative and inspiring, this episode unlocks the blueprint to nurturing and raising children in a love-filled and God-centered environment.
Pastor, teacher, and author Adrian Rogers has introduced people all over the world to the love of Jesus Christ and has impacted untold numbers of lives by presenting profound truth simply stated. Thanks for joining us for this message. Here’s Adrian Rogers.
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Would you find in God’s Word Psalm 128. Psalm 128. Psalm 128. The title of our message this morning is the title of a song that we sang earlier, Faith of Our Fathers. Faith of Our Fathers. In just a moment we’re going to read Psalm 128, but may I say today that if you’re a daddy, if you’re a father, yours is an awesome and a fearful assignment in the day and age in which we live because You must lead your family through what I want to call a minefield. And I’m telling you, it’s very, very dangerous. And as you look around, there are the wrecks of families. The landscape is littered with debris. The wounded, the maimed, the destroyed. We see over here a family there. that’s been blown to bits by financial pressure. Over here we see families that have been devastated and shattered by immorality. Our children today, oh, my dear friend, our children today live in an age where baby killing is called freedom of choice. Our children today live in an age where sodomy is called Sexual preference. They live in an age today where adultery is called an affair. And you’ve got to lead your children through a minefield like this. Here are families that have been devastated and blown to bits by drugs and alcohol that is available everywhere. Dads, I know that you want to bring your children and put them under your arms and somehow get them safely through. And the problem is, in many homes we say, well, it’s a jungle out there. Dear friend, when you open the door and come inside, it’s a jungle in there. There’s a job to be done today, a big one. I want to say it very plainly and very clearly. It all begins with dad. America is not going to be changed until the homes are changed. You will agree with that. You’ll not change America until you change the home. I’m going to tell you something else. You’re not going to change the home until you change the dads in America. Problem in America today, very frankly put, is failing fathers and drop out dads. Now Psalm 128 was written to daddies. It’s a father’s psalm. It tells of the faith of our fathers. Listen to it. Blessed is everyone that feareth the Lord, that walketh in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labor of thine hands. Happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee. Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house. Thy children… like olive plants round about thy table. Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the Lord. The Lord shall bless thee out of Zion, and thou shalt see the good of Jerusalem all the days of thy life. Yea, thou shalt see thy children’s children, and peace… Upon Israel. Now there’s several things I want you to see in this psalm that talks about the godly dad, the faithful father. The very first of which is I want you to see the character that he lives. The character that he lives out in his daily life. Look in verses 1 and 2. Blessed is everyone that feareth the Lord. that walketh in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labor of thine hands. Happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee. Here’s a father. Here’s a dad. And it’s very obvious that he is a God-fearing, hard-working dad. That’s what verses 1 and 2 tell us. He’s a God-fearing, hard-working dad. Now that’s just a good start. He has a fear of God. Amen. Now, fear of God doesn’t mean that he cringes when he thinks of God. The word fear of God used in the Bible or the phrase speaks of a reverence for God. Someone has described the fear of God as love on its knees. And a person who fears God the most loves God the very best. But a wife needs to see in her husband a fear of God. Children need to see more than anything else in their dad a fear of God. Some years ago I read of a soul winner who had gone into a particular home to witness to a man, a daddy, about Jesus. And the soul winner was presenting the cause of Christ to this dad. And this dad was being very polite to him. He was nodding and saying, yes, I see, yes. Thank you very much. I appreciate your coming by. Yes, oh yes, we are familiar with that church. Oh yes, we’ve heard this and that. But the father, while being quite polite, was very diffident, very distant to the gospel. And it was obvious that he was trying to get rid of this individual who had come in to witness to him. There was a little fellow down there on the floor playing. The father was not even aware that the little boy was listening to the conversation that was going on. Finally, in defeat and despair, that man who was witnessing the cause of Christ left that house. And when he was gone, the little boy climbed up into his daddy’s lap, put his arms around his daddy’s neck, and said, we don’t want to be a Christian, do we, daddy? We don’t want to be a Christian. Do we, Daddy? Every little boy wants to be like his dad. Did you know that I was sitting in a revival crusade? I was not saved. I was not born again. But I was sitting in a revival crusade because somebody invited our family. I was sitting here and my dad was sitting here right next to the aisle. When the invitation was given, my dad stepped out and gave his heart to Jesus Christ. I was overwhelmed. Then my dad stepped out and gave his heart to Jesus Christ. Do you know who the next guy down the aisle was? A boy named Adrian Rogers, following his dad down that aisle to give his heart to Jesus Christ as his personal Savior and Lord. I can remember when our first child came into this world, a boy named Stephen. He was born just like all kids. I don’t know why they arranged to be born so very early in the morning, midnight almost. But he did. He did. I’ll never forget that experience. Oh, what an experience it was. You think it’s hard on mothers. Oh, listen, it’s tough on dads. It’s really tough on dads. Joyce gave me the elbow and said, Adrian, I think it is time. I said, Joyce, are you certain? She said, yes. I jumped. We were living in a little house trailer going to college at that time. We didn’t have a telephone, folks. Well, we didn’t even have indoor bathroom in that house trailer, much less a telephone. We had a common… wash house there that we used and and I jumped out of bed and I said oh we’re supposed to call the doctor and she said yes call the doctor and tell him we’re coming I ran out to that little house out there where the telephone was and it was in the middle of the night there was not a soul around and there was that little office house there I couldn’t get in. It was locked. And I said, oh no, it’s locked. I’ve got to get the doctor. Folks, I thought this was the biggest crisis since the dropping of the A-bomb. And I ran back to my car, opened the car and got a tire tool and pried open the windows, I remember, to get into that place to make a telephone call. And I skinned my knees going over into the window and ran to the phone. I Folks, it was a pay phone. I didn’t have anything. I had to get back out and go back in and get a nickel or whatever it was and put it in that pay phone and call that doctor and get down there to the hospital. And Joyce, she really did deliver fast. And I remember when that nurse came out and said, Mr. Rogers, you’re a daddy. You’ve got a son. I cannot tell you the joy in my heart. And God said, Let me see that little boy. And Joy says they were on their way back to the room. And I went back to that little trailer that morning and got on my knees. I said, oh, God. If I never preach a good sermon, if I never am a good pastor, if I never have any worldly possessions, if nobody ever hears my name, oh God, and this is what I prayed, oh God, I want to be a good dad. I want to be a good dad. And I tell you, I have a greater ambition and a greater desire to be a good daddy than I have to be a good pastor. And I want to be a good pastor. But my dear friend, I want to be a God-fearing dad that my children can look up to. Folks, I’m telling you, your kids need you to fear God. They’re facing humanism that tells them that man is the center of everything. They’re facing materialism that tells them that happiness belongs in things. They’re facing all kinds of relativism that tells them that there are no absolutes, no fours. fixed standards of right and wrong and they need a god-fearing dad but now wait a minute look again if you will look not only at the character they lives verses one and two but look at the companion he loves verse three thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thy house i love that that speaks not only of his character but his companion his wife like a fruitful vine And I’ve thought of Joyce so many times under that metaphor, a fruitful vine, because that’s exactly what a good wife is. Number one, she’s faithful. Like a vine, she clings to him. Number two, she’s fruitful. She’s fruitful. And she’s fruitful in all good works, fruitful to bear children, but fruitful in every aspect, like a fruitful vine, the Bible says. And she’s faithful, she’s fruitful, but she’s fragile. You see, a vine needs the support that the house gives. And she’s like a fruitful vine by the side of the house, leaning on and depending upon you, Dad. I want to say again, the best thing, Dad, that you can do for your kids, secondly, first of all, is to fear God. Secondly, to love their mama. To love their mama. It’s so simple. It’s not all that complicated. Fear God, verse 1. Number 2, love your wife. That fruitful vine that God has given by the side of your house. You say, well, I don’t know. My love is growing cold. Well then, friend, fire it up. You can choose to love your wife. Let me tell you something. It is not love that holds your marriage together. It’s marriage that holds your love together. I mean you make a commitment. You say, I will by the grace of God. God has commanded you to love your wife. But I want to move quickly past these verses to get at verse 3, the last part of verse 3 and look at it again. Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house. Thy children like olive plants round about thy table. Now we see the character he lives, the companion he loves. But now I want you to see the children he leads. The children he leads. Thy children shall be like olive plants. Now if you lived in the Middle East, you’d understand why he talked about a child being like an olive plant. Not a full grown olive tree, but an olive plant. An olive plant that needs to be cultivated and cared for until it will become an olive tree. Now, the olive is a very productive tree in the Middle East. It’s green. It’s beautiful. It is productive. It is healthy. valuable. And friend, it is very, very stable. You can go to Israel and go to the Garden of Gethsemane. They have olive trees in the Garden of Gethsemane that some believe are 2,000 years old that may have been there when Jesus Christ prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane. Those are mature olive trees. But God’s Word says that your children are That you lead, the children you lead are going to be like olive plants round about your table. Now, an olive plant, like any fragile plant, needs to be cared for. It needs to be nurtured. And that’s the reason he says they’re going to be like olive plants round about your table. You know, the problem in America today is phantom fathers. Failing fathers drop out dads. Ha ha. Some of you spend such a little time with your children. I read a cartoon where a business executive said to his secretary, Mrs. Chortle, I want to be a better father. Would you try to locate my children for me, please? A lot of executives are just about that way. I read with a broken heart. I read and reread this statistic. The average father in America spends seven and one half minutes a week with his teenage son or daughter. Seven and one half minutes a week. I’m talking about face-to-face relationship. We live in America where we kind of spawn them and pawn them. I mean, we have these children, then we leave it up to other people to raise our children for them. Dave Simmons said they deposit their bottle-fed babies in kiddie care covens and school cells, keep them in Reeboks, straighten their teeth, and call this child raising. Well, let somebody else do it. Friend, you’ve got to cultivate these olive plants. That’s the reason that I want you to put in your margin by verse 3, Ephesians chapter 6, verse 4. Listen to it. And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. Now this verse has both a negative and a positive in it. The negative is this. Here’s the negative to watch out for. He says, provoke not your children to wrath. If you have difficulty with that translation, let me just give it to you in plain English. Don’t drive them nuts. Provoke not your children to wrath. The word provoke means to exasperate. It means to frustrate. It means to badger. It means to wound. It means to humiliate. And that’s what many dads are doing to the kids. And you can do this two basic ways. Number one, by under disciplining your child. Proverbs chapter 19, verse 18 says, “‘Chasten thy son while there is hope.'” Friend, there’s coming a time when it’ll be too late. Chasten your son while there’s hope. Now let me tell you how you can under-discipline if you’re a dad and fail to, and really provoke your child. You can under-discipline by just giving in to every demand. That’s the easy way. Or by making empty threats, not carrying out those threats. By inconsistency in discipline. Joyce and I haven’t been perfect parents, but we’ve got four wonderful kids. One thing we try to do is to be consistent in our discipline. That certain things that they know, that they know, that they know are wrong. Two things in our family we don’t tolerate, period. One is dishonesty and the other is disrespect. We just will not tolerate that. And any of our kids can get in trouble in a skinny minute with me if they’re disrespectful to their mama. I will not stand for it and should not stand for it. We under-discipline sometimes when we are so inconsistent we scream at children. When you scream at your child, do you know what that means? That just simply means you’re out of control. You’re out of control. You can under-discipline or of course then you can over-discipline. You show me a father who says, all right, then pastor, you say you won’t put up with this and you won’t put up with that. Neither will I. You show me a father who is a leader, but not tender. And I’ll show you a family that still has problems. And some of you macho dads, you bully dads need to listen. When you chasing your child and you do an overkill, down deep in his heart, he knows what you’re doing is not fair. He may not be able to reason it all out, but he knows it’s unfair. And he knows that you’re getting away with it just because you’re bigger than he is and you’re stronger than he is. And he can tell when you’re angry and just getting even rather than when you’re brokenhearted and disciplining. I’m telling you, dads, If you have all rules and no relationships, you’re going to have rebellion. If you have all relationship and no rules, you’re going to have chaos. But the Bible says you’re not to provoke your children to wrath, but you are to bring them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. Now look at that word nurture and think about your child as an olive plant. The word nurture actually has the idea of cultivations. of cultivation, like you would cultivate an olive plant. Do you have a garden? I don’t have a garden. I’ll tell you why I don’t have a garden. I don’t like gardens. Too much weeding, too much hoeing, too much fertilizing, too much watering, too much care. It’s tough to have a garden. It’s easier for me to buy vegetables. And I’ve got some dear friends who bring me some and I love them. I love these friends who’ve done that weeding and that hoeing and that watering. And if you love gardens, I’m proud of you. My dear friend, you’ve got another kind of a garden. You’ve got some olive plants. And it takes that weeding. It takes that watering. It takes that fertilizing. It takes that cultivating. It takes that discipline. It takes that instruction. It takes that demonstration. And there’s no way to do it without spelling love, T-I-M-E. I read the other day that if a father does not spend quality time with his daughter, he greatly… greatly increases her opportunities, her proclivities, her chances to be one of two things, either frigid or she’s going to be promiscuous. If the father does not give her the love that she deeply desires, she’s going to find someone else that is going to give her what her dad really ought to give her, She’s looking for a father figure and will become vulnerable or else she will have a negativism toward men in general. You say, well, pastor, I just don’t have time. Well, friend, I believe you have time. If you don’t have time, take time. You say, I’ve got other things to do. Well, duties don’t conflict. Let me show you something that I came across. Los Angeles Dodger baseball player, Oral Hershiser, all you men recognize the name, was interviewed in the Wall Street Journal. And Oral Hershiser, I believe, hit a home run on the pages of the Wall Street Journal. When he asked for his strategy, when asked for his strategy of success, here’s what he said. And I want you to listen to this. He said, and I quote, I give my credit to my personal submission to Jesus Christ. Each time I assess my major league career, I ask myself these questions. Am I still married? Are my children happy? And do they know that their father loves them and is committed to their mother and to them? And when I’m finished with my baseball career, my most important goal is not to make the Hall of Fame. but to see that my family is successful as the result of my influence. Don’t you love that? Don’t you love that? This great man, wealthy because of his baseball prowess said, I’m not trying to get in somebody’s hall of fame, but in God’s hall of fame by raising my family as I ought to raise them. And Orel, I salute you for that. But the sad thing is one week later in USA Today, They were doing a story on another baseball player. His name? Pete Rose. So they thought they’d find out about the real Pete Rose and so they interviewed his daughter. And this is what his daughter said. He’s the worst father in the world. I will never understand why he never had any time for any of us. We really didn’t expect anything from him. We just wanted him to like us. Even if I wanted to call my dad, I couldn’t. He will not give me his phone number. I have to call his agent and then wait for him to return the call. When they asked Pete Rose about that, do you know how he responded? Here’s how he responded. I don’t know what she’s complaining about. I bought her a new Mercedes last week and had it sent to her. Two men. Two sets of values. I’m telling you, dads, they’re like olive plants. They’ve got to be cultivated. They’ve got to be cared for. Now I want you to see not only the children that he leads, but I want you to see, last of all, the contribution that he leaves. The contribution that he leaves. Look in verses 5 and 6. The Lord shall bless thee out of Zion. Thou shall see the good of Jerusalem all the days of thy life. Show me a generation that has God-fearing, hardworking fathers, men who love their wives, men who lead their children, and I’ll show you a nation that is a strong nation. You’ll see the good of Jerusalem. As I told you before, America will not be changed until her families are changed and her families will not be changed until the fathers are changed. You’ll see the good of Jerusalem. That’s a part of the legacy that he leaves as a healthy nation. But oh, I want you to see the last part of it. Yea, thou shalt see thy children’s And peace upon Israel. Now he’s talking not only about national security, but he’s talking about your personal legacy. You will see peace. your children’s children. And the idea is of the children’s children living in peace because of the legacy of a godly granddaddy. That means all the more to me because of my six wonderful grandchildren that I love with an indescribable love. Thou shall see thy children’s children what a delight that is I I had the privilege last week of spending some quality time with Bill and Gloria Gaither now you know that Bill and Gloria Gaither have made I suppose a greater impact on Christian music in our generation than any people who live I mean they have just written the great great music that our choir sings and many of us have grown up on Gaither music Well, when I was having coffee with Bill, he told me a story that I want to share with you because I thought it so perfectly fits in with what I’m about to say. He said that back there in Indiana, in Alexandria, Indiana, when he and Gloria were first married, they were schoolteachers. They weren’t in the Ministry of Music and they weren’t doing concerts and writing music. They were schoolteachers. They didn’t have very much money. But they wanted to build a house. They lived in a little town and they thought, well, we need to build a house and we want to have some acreage. We want about 15 acres. And so they drove around town and they saw 15 acres out there on the edge of the town and they decided, well, we want that 15 acres. They asked around and found out who it belonged to and it belonged to Mr. Ewell, who was a retired banker. whose business mostly was acquiring. He didn’t get rid of stuff. He just bought it and bought it and held it. And everybody knew that Mr. Ewell liked to buy property, but he didn’t like to sell property. But they decided they would go to Mr. Ewell and ask Mr. Ewell if they could buy that 15 acres. And they took their daughter and dressed her up, put up bonnet on her to make her look cute, to be a good little family, you know, went in to see Mr. Ewell and ask him, Mr. Ewell, would you consider selling us that 15 acres of property out there on the edge of town? And Mr. Ewell looked at them and he said, well, he said, I don’t, I don’t want to sell anything. He said, I really, I’m not interested. He said, what is your name, son? He said, my name is Gaither. He said, Gaither, he said, was your granddad Grover Gaither? Well, he said, yes. He said, that’s my granddad. He said, he was. He said, let me tell you about Grover Gaither. He said, he used to work for me. He said, I have never seen a harder working, more faithful man. more dedicated man than your granddad, Grover Gaither. He said, son, you came from good stuff. He said, go away, let me think about it. Come back tomorrow. Bill Gaither came back. Whether it was tomorrow or a few days, I cannot remember. The old man, Mr. Ewell, said… Well, I’ve decided to sell the property. How about $3,500? Gaither said, I didn’t know whether he meant for the whole thing or an acre. But I said, well, all right, that’ll be fine. And he bought this piece of property, 15 acres, for $3,500. Had a little stream through it and they began to work around the stream and they went out there and began to plant trees. trees out on that 15 acres a tree for one child a tree for another child they have a son named Benji and they have the Benji tree there and all of these trees and through the years they have just planted on this this 15 acres until today it’s it’s a very beautiful spot that was 27 years ago Bill said to me, he said, the other day, my son Benji, who’s now a grown boy, just graduated from college, was going off to do some ministry in the inner city. The women were in the house, and Benji and I were just walking around in that beautiful piece of property. And Benji said to me, he said, Dad, this sure is a pretty place, isn’t it? I said, yes, son, it really is a nice place. And then Benji said, Dad… How did we ever get this place? How did we ever get this place? And Bill Gaither said, Benji, I thought you would never ask. I want to tell you how we got this place. Because of my granddad, your great granddaddy, who was a faithful man, who was a good man. Because of him, son, we’re walking around out here today my dear friend that’s a beautiful story to me because I believe that’s exactly what this psalm is saying yea thou shalt see thy children’s children and peace upon Jerusalem I don’t know what kind of a home you came from maybe you weren’t blessed to have a granddaddy like Grover Gaither or a great granddad Friend, you can’t do anything about your ancestors. But I’m going to tell you one thing. You can do something about your descendants. You can do something about them. You can say, by the grace of God, I’m going to be a godly daddy. I’m going to see my children’s children loving God, serving God, praising God. One day maybe they’ll sing and they’ll think of us when they sing, faith of our fathers living still. The need of the hour, the need of the hour, the need of the hour is fathers who be God-fearing, hardworking, who will love their wives and lead their children. C.S. Lewis, listen to me, I’m finished. But C.S. Lewis says there are two kinds of people in the world. Are you listening, dads, moms, children, listen to me. There are two kinds of people in the world. You can take all of the people in the world and just divide them up into these two categories. First of all, there are those who look up to God in humble submission and say to Him, Thy will be done. That’s the greatest, most wonderful thing you could do. Just look up to God and say, God, thy will be done. Save me, fill me, use me. I want, dear Lord, to fear you, to follow you with my family. Thy will be done. That’s one category of person. Those who say to God, thy will be done. The other category of persons are those to whom God says… As they slip into hell, thy will be done. Thy will be done. When God says to them, all right, have it your way. Your will be done as they go to hell. Friend, God is not willing that any should perish. If you die and go to hell, it’s because you’ve refused the will of God and chosen your own will. And God will have to say to you, your will be done. I wonder today, would you like to say to God in heaven, oh God, thy will be done? Lord, I need you. I want you. I need to be saved. I want to become a child of God. I want every head bowed and every eye closed. No one stirring. No one looking around. No one moving. If you’re already saved, would you begin to pray for those around about you who may not be saved? Maybe you don’t know whether they’re saved or not. Just pray, Lord, bless the person to my right. Bless the person to my left. That person in front of me, that person behind me. Oh, God, right now, if they don’t know you, Lord, help them right now that they might come to know you as their personal Savior and Lord. My dear friend, I want to tell you that Jesus Christ is knocking at your heart’s door today and he wants to save you. And He will save you if you would pray a prayer like this. Oh God, I know that you love me. I know that you want to save me. Jesus, you died to save me. I believe you’re the Son of God. I believe that God raised you from the dead. I believe it. And I know that you paid for my sin debt. And I open my heart now and I receive you into my heart as my Lord and Savior. My prayer is that your will will be done in my life. Come into my heart. Forgive my sins. Save me, Lord Jesus. Save me. Lord Jesus. You say, Pastor, I can’t remember all of that. Just put it in a short sentence. Save me, Lord Jesus. Father, I pray that many, many today in this place will receive Christ as their personal Savior and Lord and be born again. In Jesus’ name, amen.
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